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[LordBucket]

Don't talk to people who prefer topics you find uninteresting.

I offer you the perspective that this advice may tend to shut out valuable possibilities in your life.

There are many people who might be able to benefit you who have interest exclusively in topics that don't interest you. Being able to talk and listen to people with whom you share no common background is a useful life skill.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

Irreverent. Furtuka is looking for companionship, and the best way to go about that is to find others who share your interests rather than forcing yourself to integrate into a social circle your real self has no place within.

[kaijyuu]

While I'm a peace and love and friendship for everyone type of dude, even I'll admit that there are some people who are just incompatible. I don't like exclusive cliques but at the same time you don't have to be friends with absolutely everyone.

So yeah, if you can't find anything to talk about, just be content as mild acquaintances.

[pisskop]

Ya k'now, sitting here bored out of my skull, I wonder why you differentiate nerd/not nerd.  I don't consider myself a nerd.  I wouldn't consider you a nerd unless you were a stereotypical science geek.  What makes you thing you are a nerd?  Maybe thats the big problem, you percieve this yawning social gap between you and everyone else.  Most people will be happy if you act like yourself and treat them with dignity.

To be sure, don't run around talking about 'brony this' and 'star trek that' to just anybody, a little filtering is required (you try to hug everybody in the world and somebodies are bound to get weirded out), but that doesnt mean they have to be your closest secrets.  start with what you have in common with them.  Are you at the store or in class with them?  Talk about things in the immediate area/news.  And everyone here seems to have good points.  You will end up as mild aquaintances with most people.

[Neonivek]

Ya k'now, sitting here bored out of my skull, I wonder why you differentiate nerd/not nerd.

I feel like "Nerd" isn't really descriptive at all.

But he differentiates nerd and not nerd because it is a short cut to any meaningful description... or rather it is out of lazyness.

[Korbac]

Ya k'now, sitting here bored out of my skull, I wonder why you differentiate nerd/not nerd.

I feel like "Nerd" isn't really descriptive at all.

But he differentiates nerd and not nerd because it is a short cut to any meaningful description... or rather it is out of lazyness.

Maybe he doesn't want to get into a huge semantics - based debate about nerds and just wants us to answer his question?

You know, so he can get what he wants without broaching unnecessary topics?

Sorry for being so Hartch dude. but not everyone wants to argue over the meaning of "nerd" whenever they say it.

[Leatra]

I'm not argue over the meaning of "Nerd" but I believe "Nerd" is just a label. "Non nerdy people" are humans too. I had a friend who I would describe as "extremely non nerdy" and I remember having intellectual conservations with him. I remember one night we talked about Leonardo da Vinci for like half an hour. We did it while we were drinking vodka on the beach at 11:00 PM. Non nerdy people talk about nerdy stuff too, they just do it differently.

When you talk to a non nerdy guy don't just assume "Hey, he is not a nerd. Maybe I should start a conservation about football." Don't think too much about what you are going to talk about. Conservations usually flow by itself. Even if they don't like the topic you are talking about, they may keep listening for the sake of politeness and you may even get them interested.

[Neonivek]

Which is sort of the thing Leatra, or rather that is exactly what I mean.

Also I wasn't trying to argue definitions. I was trying to ask what those words really meant as far as the conversation is using.

[pisskop]

If it was oversight or a desire to be simple and vague its one thing, but if its an outlook on life than I just thought I'd ask... either way OP hasn't responded, so...

Still I stand by my assertions.