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[Samio]

So I'm currently in a real rough patch right now. In case you didn't know, I have Asperger's Syndrome, a form of autism. It has been diagnosed by a very accomplished doctor, yet the high school I learn in is currently not following my IEP. We've been in a legal battle with this particular school system since kindergarten, really (teachers not understanding autism, real bad cuts to the things I need even though they are in a legal document saying I need them, etc.). I won't get into details with what EXACTLY they are doing wrong, but I will tell you that at one point I DID get one on one support from an EXCELLENT person who managed to pull me through the last quarter of 7th grade and 8th grade. This person said they would be with me the next year, but then this other guy took his place. I totally understand that. Times are tough, and I don't blame him one bit. What I don't understand is that this guy is totally untrained, the only experience he has for education is a part time job he took in the summer for some summer camp. Inside this summer camp there was ONE autistic person. So apparently that's enough for him to be with me.

This school is sleazy, and they are known for it. I guess situation and question is: My mom is currently fighting as hard as she can, but she can't get a doctor's note to have my absences I've been taking to get me out of there excused. I'm faced with several choices: Convince my mom to let me drop out, convince my mom that we should wait for the best opportunity, stay home and do two quarters worth of work in ten days, or go to a place I'm deathly afraid of and do two quarters worth of work in ten days.

If you have advice, please advise!
You can also reach me on steam: Samio321.
If you feel that you'd be better off giving me a donation, then please don't bother with the money stuff and just hand over some games. Believe it or not those under my autism are what's keeping me afloat.
Thank you for your kind support, Bay12ers.

[DarkWolfXV]

Change school if possible, i also have asperger syndrome and bad personality, i honestly dont care and show my hate whet teacher doesnt follow rules a lot. Then i get sent to school director (or w/e its called in english, the main guy.) and all situation gets solved. I got individual teaching it helped so i dont see my class of idiots(I see 80% of them as idiots. Discussable.)

Games keep me up alive too. I found playing guitar good for it too. I want to achieve something and get paid for it in future. And dont let people say your dreams will never come true. They will if they are achievable and you really want it and are dedicated to it. Read The Alchemist. I just read half of it and i feel better now.

[GlyphGryph]

Samio, it sounds like the school may have gotten rid of the guy who was helping you rather than him leaving on his own - probably to find someone who would be willing to work for less.

I would honestly see if you can make arrangements to go to a different school.

[nenjin]

Or have your parents take it up the food chain to the school district. You could probably argue that your school not meeting your needs puts the onus on the state to find one that will. That will come down to what your district's stated responsibilities are in this thing.

[Strife26]

Okay, first thing to is that while stuff looks rough as heck right now, you've got the capability to get through it.


Now, I'm afraid that my IAG certification doesn't give me much about how to suggest getting support through official channels, although Nenjin's advice to take it up the chain of responsibility seems pretty sound to me.

I highly recommend against dropping out. Education is important, and all. 2 quarters of work in ten days is well within doable territory. Be hard, tough work, but it's doable. Be fun too, in it's own crazy way.

If you're going to try it, you'll have to be careful. After a quick burst of enthusiasm, you're going to want to sink into procrastination, because 10 days seems like a long time. Start by making a biiig list of all the assignments that you have to do. Make is clear, easy to check off. I recommend a paper notepad, not online.
Pick any order that seems to appeal to you, that's just a matter of personal preference. You're going to need to stay on task, though. I highly recommend not logging into steam, or anywhere else for the whole ten days if you can. If you don't want to go that far, strictly limit yourself to one hour, *after* you've done your work for the day. I've tried to do work on like that while surfing on and off, but before long you'll lose three hours to  TV tropes without noticing it.

Find a good rest-work time for you. Hour and forty-five minutes working hard, then 15 minutes doing something light, like focusing on music worked for me. Don't do something that takes much more than 15 minutes during your break, like starting another playthrough of FF7 (from experience, here. Told myself that I'd start working once I got to Ft. Condor. Spent a day grinding enough to kill to giant snake).

Keep your area semi-organized. A cleared kitchen table is a good option. There's going to be lots of paperwork, most likely, and you hardly want to lose something and have to redo it again. When you want to eat, stop working any enjoy a half-hour meal. Then start cracking again, refreshed.

Having someone to help motivate you is really helpful. The battle buddy system is useful for everything, doncha know. Best course is for them to call you every few hours ask how you're doing and all. Now, it's best if your buddy is a real-life type person, but an internet friend generally works as well. It's very important that they realize that their job is to keep you on task.

[Samio]

Thank you for all your support.
It feels great to have some people by my side, it felt like the whole world was closing in on me for a while there.
In terms of the current situation: I'm not entirely sure what's going on, things just are flying by real fast, but we are definitely hoping to go to another school.
As that is the goal, my parents and I have chosen not to do the work assigned to me, and we are basically formulating an education for home, involving reading, writing, and exercise.

Again SO many thanks for the support. As I'm not going to school expect me to be on the forums a lot more.

[Stargrasper]

Be careful with the not doing your assigned work thing.  When you transfer to another school, you grades from the old will transfer with you.  Not doing the work for them will hurt you later.

If you intend to not do the work and haven't formally transferred, you should formally push the withdrawal from school and home schooled paperwork.  It'll save you trouble down the road.

[Vector]

As that is the goal, my parents and I have chosen not to do the work assigned to me, and we are basically formulating an education for home, involving reading, writing, and exercise.

You should probably add some math to that, too, if you can do it.  I'm not just saying that as a person with AS who is kind of obsessed with math, but as someone who has really benefited later in life from the problem-solving skills and ways of thinking I learned.