There are two things I dread in life. Government paperwork, and doctors. (Just the medical kind, not shrinks. I'm fine with shrinks)
The doctor thing is a relatively recent development (last several years) but its gotten to the point that even thinking of visiting a doctor fills me with extreme amounts of dread. I no longer like them. I no longer trust them. And I really don't want to see them, but I suspect I should, because I've got something that seems pretty serious.
Obviously the easy answer is "just set up an appointment already" which is probably what I'll end up doing, but I just feel so sick to my stomache at the prospect, and I can't sleep... Especially since its getting more painful, and I've managed to make it much much worst than it was originally so now I feel guilty as well.
I'm now awake two hours past the time when I should have been asleep on the verge of tears over the thought that I may have to make an appointment. And I'm basically just posting this because I don't know what else to do, and maybe someone will have some useful advice...
Okay, a bit of background:
I've visited doctors maybe a dozen times, and I've almost always been extremely negatively reinforced. (the exception is when I was a young teenager and went twice for stitches) It always ends up with them charging me lots of money to tell them there's nothing they can do to help me and I'll just have to live with it. Fractures (twice), infections, painful cysts, wounds that have bled every day for the last six months... every single time, they'd schedule me for an appointment a week out so I'd have to spend a week completely in the dark stressing about what was wrong with me. Once I saw them, the only advice they can give me is to do the stuff I'd already been doing for a week because it was the first suggestion on Google, and telling me if I want any more I'll have to schedule a followup. And then they charge me 20-200 dollars for the ten minutes it takes for them to decide there's nothing they can do to help me, and if I go to the followups they will charge me again to tell me that there is still nothing they can do to help me, something the secretary could have probably told me over the phone. And then I'm broke, and I can't pay my bills that month.
That's the standard situation and left a sour taste in my mouth, but I accepted it.
The turning point, I think, was when I screwed something up with my back and pretty much had my body locked rigid and in intense pain. My coworkers (I was working on campus) manage to painfully drag me into a car and deliver me to the campus medical center, who promptly turns me away, saying since I graduated the week before they wouldn't help me. I couldn't walk unsupported at this point, and they turned me away. I finally get in to see a doctor at another maybe eight to ten hours by scheduling an appointment, by which time the pain was gone, the doctors had no idea what caused it, and I was charged the rest of my paycheck for the trouble.
So its gotten to the point where I assume that anything wrong with me will fix itself in time, or it will just be something I have to live with, and visiting a doctor just means I will be left in exactly the same situation I was before I visited, expect without any money left.
To make it worse, my personal experience is generally better than that of the rest of my family, as I've had so little riding on them beyond pain or discomfort or a little blood. I've had relatives die in hospital because of screw ups by doctors and nurses, and my brother is only alive because my mother ignored the first three doctors she talked to until she found one that actually believed her about his condition (which she'd researched online, it turns out correctly). Had she followed the the advice of any of the first three doctors, he would likely now be dead.
The cherry on top is that my girlfriend now works in the medical industry, so a lot of her stories end up being about the doctors, and of course the sort of situations that come up in stories are usually not the good ones. :/
So now my trust in doctors is pretty much nil. My belief that going to a doctor will make things better, rather than worse, is pretty much nil. The only type of medical situation where I have ANY trust left at all is the ER, to the point where I would rather wait five hours at the ER than see a general practitioner,