I'm on Orc mod(without trapavoid on the orcs) so I plan for conflict. I also have civ-forge and I start with a breeding pair of giant beetles. Embark zone- a foresty area
First I make a large storehouse at the base of a massive tower(without walls). Dig A large mining shaft through all the z-levels and carve out a little square in a soil level for farming and for a dining room. I build my plump helmet farm after that. At that point I start expliotory mining and use the stone to build my tower with some space for workshops. I build I kennel on one of the sides and chop down all the trees in the vicinity of my storehouse. I build a carpenter's workshop, mason's workshop, still, and a trade Depot. I use my carpenter's workshop to build 2 doors for my front doors. Then I build around 30 barrels and around 30 bins+8 chairs and 2 tables for my dining room. I gave my brewer a herbilist skill so I made him gather plants in his spare time, and then open a above ground farm. all of this is in the planning stage still, and then I give the kennels a train 2 hunting animals order. I unpause and execute the commands, after the base of the tower is done I build the upper floor and start building some fortifications. I might've forgot somethings, but I keep my dwarves working overall. Then the traders arrive, but I didn't make any crafts. The lioson tells me what he wants for trade, I set up a craftsdwarves shop, and the rest depends on my situation.
As you can see I build more of a tower, then I evolve it into a castle, then I evolve it into an unstoppible fortress! If I'm somewhat luck with orcs(getting them after I have time to train some marksdwarves and finish my fortifications and get some weapon traps running). I don't hide from them, I prepare for them. I only modded out their trap avoid because it wasn't fitting for a bloodthirsty barbarian who probably wasn't all too bright. If they catch me offgaurd,
1:have my few marskdwarves pick off as many as they can
2:draft my entire fortress
3:massive slaughter of dwarves and orcs alike
4:abandon
5:reclaim
6:Kill all hostle animals and make the millitary men laborors
7:
8:profit!