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[nenjin]

I got one.

When should you as an adult try to take over legal responsibility for a parent?

What's the break point? When they're functional but unwilling to take care of themselves to the degree they should? When they've completely lost their minds? Struggling with the decision right now with my mom because she's mentally competent but she's living in a way that she'll be unable to care for herself soon, and it doesn't look like she's going to change her attitude. There's a good chance she'll just keep sliding further down the mental and physical tubes, faster than simply being old, because she's not taking care of herself or doing basic things like cleaning up after herself, walking to the degree she's strong enough to go more than 50 feet without becoming exhausted, etc.....

I'd rather not wait until she's a complete wreck before I take action....but I don't want to take her independence from her either because she's a proud woman who is very protective of her right to be left alone, and I kinda don't want to give up hope she can turn things around for herself.

[martinuzz]

Take her on a sightseeing tour to check out the various elderly care homes in the vicinity. If that does not spook her into becoming more active, it might be time.

[nenjin]

She's already been in one, did rehab there after a stay in the hospital. Said she liked it, had nice people. She put her own parents in a nursing home when their time came, too. When we're like "do you want to end up shuffling around a nursing home on a walker at the age of 70?" she just kinda says nothing.

Sorry, this is probably better in Life Advice than Debbie Downering this thread. But I figured I'd let the hivemind take a crack at it.