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Can one see who's talking to who on FB without accessing his account?
« on: November 15, 2013, 03:00:59 pm »
So, bit of background. Around a year ago I got drunk and kissed/fondled a german friend. I then confessed to my girlfriend, who got mad and made me promise never to speak to that girl again.

Fast forward one year, and I've found the Master of my dreams in Göttingen, so I break my promise and ask that friend if she knows anyone there, to get a feel for the city. Soon afterward, I get a really angry girlfriend yelling at me for talking to the german girl.

My girlfriend maintain she didn't access my account, I don't see any other way she could have known. So is there another way, or is she just lying?
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Re: Can one see who's talking to who on FB without accessing his account?
« Reply #1 on: November 15, 2013, 03:13:05 pm »
Are you sure you didn't comment or click on any of the girl's posts? Check your recent activity just in case.
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Re: Can one see who's talking to who on FB without accessing his account?
« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2013, 03:29:07 pm »
I suggest changing you Facebook password.And possibly you Email password since you get updates from facebook over there.
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« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2013, 03:29:48 pm »
Nope, didn't talked to her. And I just did change both passwords.
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« Reply #4 on: November 16, 2013, 12:02:15 am »
It could be possible the friend in question may have mentioned you to one of her friends who mentioned it to your girlfriend, or blah blah blah blah blah. Social networks are funny.
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Re: Can one see who's talking to who on FB without accessing his account?
« Reply #5 on: November 16, 2013, 12:59:55 am »
You should also talk to your girlfriend about being crazy possessive. Asking you to not do that again is one thing; asking you to never speak to someone again is ridiculous.
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« Reply #6 on: November 16, 2013, 01:23:51 am »
Quote from: kaijyuu on November 16, 2013, 12:59:55 am
You should also talk to your girlfriend about being crazy possessive. Asking you to not do that again is one thing; asking you to never speak to someone again is ridiculous.

I get her reasoning (and, in her place, would have been far more punishing), but it is a bit possessive, yeah. What, so just banning this one specific girl fixes your boyfriend's drunken sleaze nature?

OP: Do you have any alternate other points of access to facebook chat except your computer? Phone, instant messenger, anything like that? Kind of doubt you're girlfriend's a five-star mega-hacker who breached the Facebook database servers, so unless you "liked" one of the girl's posts or something, accessing your account is definitely the only way to see your chat history.
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« Reply #7 on: November 16, 2013, 02:06:27 am »
Wait. She makes you cut off contact, but lets you stay friends on Facebook?
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« Reply #8 on: November 16, 2013, 02:40:50 am »
You don't have to be FB friends with someone to message them.
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« Reply #9 on: November 16, 2013, 04:39:09 am »
And yeah, we're still friend on FB. I don't really get her motivations for this. But yeah, I guess she must have been lying then, I'll just change all my passwords and never let my computer unattended again.
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« Reply #10 on: November 16, 2013, 02:06:45 pm »
Oh, didn't know you could do more than friend requests without being friends. My bad. But, yes, password changes are a good idea, as is password-protecting your account on your computer. Leaving it unattended should be fine, though. You definitely can't read another user's messages, unless it's part of a conversation you were a part of at some point in the past.
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“What are you doing?”, asked Minsky. “I am training a randomly wired neural net to play Tic-Tac-Toe” Sussman replied. “Why is the net wired randomly?”, asked Minsky. “I do not want it to have any preconceptions of how to play”, Sussman said.
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« Reply #11 on: November 16, 2013, 03:36:24 pm »
Also not breaking people's trust is nice.  Sounds like neither of you trusts the other, at this point.
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« Reply #12 on: November 16, 2013, 04:31:20 pm »
Pretty much, yeah.
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