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[Exerosp]

How come that I subconsciously shift my personality in the direction of the people i'm around?(1) If I say, hang around a lot of smokers my need to do cigarettes increases from once every new-year to doing a random cigg-request(Can't think of a better example).

It seriously feels like I need a kick in me, something to rev me up like never before.
But each time I find a source of fuel for the flame that's inside me, I end up burning things to crisps. I'm too passionate when it comes to many things, and it feels like I overthink things. (How come i'm like all of this?(2))

Is it good for me to feel better whenever someone entrusts their depressive stuff onto me?((3)Relationship problems, and other stuff )
Why do I get the feeling that i've somehow forgotten how to 'Think' things?(4) This is pretty much the question. It feels like I think things differently, but i'm not reformed. I've just forgotten how I used to think.
Analogues, are they a way of inducing feeling into a sentence?(5) Because for me it feels like I can't get my words down if I don't use them. And they kinda come natural.

There you go. Five pointed out questions. You know who I did it for~

[nenjin]

Social Chameleon.

It's a social strategy where you adapt to your surroundings in order to get along better with others. Everyone does it to some extent, they change their behavior when around different groups. You try not to swear around your grandparents, for example, where you swear all the time around your friends.

What you should be asking is, am I making self-destructive decisions because of my desire to fit/blend in. You seem vulnerable to self-imposed peer pressure. Not exactly a healthy trait to have in this day and age.

Is it good for me to feel better whenever someone entrusts their depressive stuff onto me?

I don't think it's good or bad. It's a symptom of your desire for acceptance. People confiding in you shows you they value your opinion (maybe they do, maybe they don't, their reasons are irrelevant, it's about how it makes you feel.) That gives you an endorphin boost.

Age check? Nationality check? You sound young to me, especially because of the intensity and urgency with which you say you feel things. I'm not quite sure how to parse the last couple of sentences. Sometimes it's easier to express yourself in long form than it is to try and cram your everything into 3 sentences.

[XXSockXX]

Sounds mostly like normal growing up stuff to me.
1. I think everybody does this subconsciously to some degree. It's part of group bonding. Just be aware of it to avoid doing stupid things due to peer pressure.

2. Being slightly indecisive myself, I'd say sometimes you have to give that kick to yourself and just go through with something. Overthinking everything just paralyzes you. If you go through with something and it turns out you didn't like it, at least you know for sure.

3. If it doesn't bother you, it's probably a good thing. It shows that others trust you and you can possibly learn something from it.

4. This I think is a pretty normal side effect of aging. You change slowly, but constantly, so after a few years you barely recognize your older self anymore. I can barely remember how I really felt as a teenager or ten years ago for that matter.

5. No idea. If your analogues don't get more complicated than what you are trying to express, it's probably ok.

[Exerosp]

Yeah, i'm not one to do anything I wouldn't want, but when I want to do it I tend to put more than needed, which tends to creep/disturb people and that.
The overthinking part though... it either feels like i'm barely doing any thinking at all, and therefore hurt people in the process, or overthink things and spiral out of my hands. Hard to explain.

But yeah, 18 years old and i'm from Sweden. Never really had an interest in things, and it keeps feeling like the sparks I get emotionally gets bigger and bigger. The thing I have with analogues is that I can't put my thoughts into words that well, so i'm just a blabberfest of confusion.

It also feels like when i'm talking with my friends, I forget to say thank you or appreciate their part of the conversation, and add to it. I either just jump between subjects because I feel inapt to contribute, or I just listen to them as they continue the conversation. Sometimes it helps with awkwardly admitting what i'm feeling and saying sorry for not being socially able and that... they kind-of understand haha.