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[GoombaGeek]

Firster first of all, if you're reading this, hi! *waves* Sorry I'm posting about this but I can't think of anything and I'm a bit worried :I

First of all, I know that forcing a shy person out of their comfort zone because "there's something wrong with them" is stupid. But my buddy has been getting steadily more withdrawn since last year. First his other buddy lashed out at him because of a lie someone told and got really creepy and clingy afterwards, then kept telling him how close he lived to him ("I biked past your house yesterday"). This made him afraid to go outside (although it is justified if you know the other guy, he's somewhat scarily possessive). He ended up getting homeschooled because he was afraid of senior high (also kinda justified, since he was going to the same school as clingy guy and lying girl, both of whom fight over being his *only* friend). Now he's run out of anything to do, is terrified to go anywhere because even in an empty building he's afraid that people are silently judging him, and won't leave home.

We like to see each other about once a week, which is great, but his situation is getting worse. Is there anything specific I can do to help, or should I just see him more often?

[LordBucket]

There is not enough information in your post to give anything more than fairly generic advice.

I would ask him:

 * Why?
 * Is he ok?
 * Is this what he wants?

There are probably solutions, but you, asking advice on behalf of somebody else knowing little about the reasons for their situation...of us, so we can give advice based on little information, to relay back to you to implement...these are not ideal working conditions.

Find out more.

[mainiac]

That doesn't sound like insecurity to me, that sounds like paranoia.  And I get the impression that you seem to think the paranoia is justified although I don't think you've given the reader enough to agree or disagree about that.  But towards the end it seems like you hint at extreme neurosis to the point that it's worth considering a mental disorder as a possibility.  Professional help would be advisable in such a case.  You can't make him be less "insecure" but medication could help him get over the fear of leaving the house.